My friends – the ones who really know what I do and don’t judge me for it – sometimes come to me for advice. They’re usually curious about one thing in particular: how to treat a man well and how to keep him faithful.
Because I work for a London escort agency, I spend a lot of time with men in all kinds of situations. I see them when they’re relaxed, when they’re stressed, when they’re lonely, and when they’re celebrating. I’ve learned, over time, that some of the men I meet aren’t being faithful to their wives or girlfriends. They’ll tell me, sometimes almost defensively, that seeing escorts isn’t the same as having a “real” affair – that it somehow doesn’t count in the same way. I don’t challenge them on it; I let them make their own moral calculations and live with their own consciences. But because of what I do, I’ve developed a strong understanding of men: what they respond to, what makes them feel valued, and what makes them feel genuinely special.
When my girlfriends ask for guidance, I usually start with something that sounds simple but is surprisingly rare: really listening.
The Power of Truly Listening
Men love being listened to – and I don’t mean the kind of half-hearted listening where you hold eye contact, nod in all the right places, but your mind is drifting off to what you’re going to wear tomorrow or what you need to pick up from the supermarket. I mean real, focused, active listening.
For me, that means I ask questions and then pay close attention to what’s said in response. I’m not just waiting for my turn to talk; I’m trying to understand how he sees the world. If a man says something interesting or revealing, I don’t just smile and move on – I follow up. I ask him why he thinks that, how he came to that opinion, or what happened to make him feel that way. I notice the details: the way his tone changes when he talks about work, the way his eyes light up when he mentions a hobby or a dream. When you do this, you’ll see a visible shift. Men who are used to being tolerated or talked over suddenly feel heard. And men really, truly love that.
Asking for Opinions and Advice
I also make a point of asking a man for his opinion on things. It doesn’t have to be anything huge – it can be about a decision I’m trying to make, something I’ve read, an outfit I’m considering, or even how he would handle a problem I’m facing. Asking for his advice shows that I respect his judgment and that I see him as someone whose perspective matters.
That said, I don’t pretend to agree with everything just to flatter him. If I don’t share his view, I’ll say so – but I do it gently, in a way that’s respectful rather than confrontational. I might say, “I see what you mean, but I look at it a bit differently,” and then explain my side without belittling his. Most men appreciate that combination of warmth, honesty, and respect.
Letting Men Treat Me Well
Another thing I’ve learned is to let men treat me well. I know that sounds old-fashioned, but in some ways, I am an old-fashioned kind of girl. I enjoy little gestures of chivalry, and I allow space for a man to express his care in those ways.
I like it when a man holds a door open for me instead of rushing through ahead of me. I don’t mind if he offers to order for me in a restaurant, especially if we’ve discussed what I like and he’s paying attention to my preferences. I find it charming when he steps to the roadside of the pavement, putting himself between me and the traffic, or when he says, “After you,” and genuinely means it.
These gestures might seem small or outdated to some, but they say a lot. They show consideration, a desire to protect, and a willingness to put in effort. When I accept these courtesies graciously, with a smile and a simple “thank you,” it creates a warm, appreciative atmosphere rather than a transactional one.
The Effort of Keeping the Spark Alive
Finally, I believe men notice and value effort more than they sometimes admit. When you’re going out with your man, it can make a world of difference if you get ready as though it’s your very first date together. Not in a forced or artificial way, but with the same sense of intention and excitement. It’s about sending the message: “You’re important to me, and I still want to impress you.”
That effort doesn’t have to be over-the-top or obvious. It doesn’t mean you need an entirely new wardrobe or professional hair and makeup every time. It can be as simple as making sure your skin feels soft and clean, taking a little extra time to apply your make-up so it enhances your features, styling your hair instead of just throwing it up carelessly, and choosing an outfit that flatters you and suits the occasion.
When all of those elements come together – the subtle perfume, the neat nails, the well-fitted clothes – it creates an overall impression that you’ve taken care, that you’ve prepared for him, not just thrown something on at the last minute.
Why This Makes a Difference
In my experience, this kind of thoughtfulness goes a very long way. Men may not always be able to name each detail, but they feel the difference. They feel wanted, chosen, and valued.
And when a man feels listened to, respected, allowed to be chivalrous, and consistently worth making an effort for, it becomes much harder for him to take you for granted – or to look elsewhere. That doesn’t guarantee faithfulness, of course; nothing does. But it does create the kind of connection and appreciation that many men struggle to find, and that’s where loyalty, in all its forms, often begins.
